The trouble with reading a book called how to be an adult in relationships is that people will ask you what youre reading and you have to tell them that said there were a lot of great messages tools and ideas in this book the best for me being the description of the five as the keys to healthy relationships friendly romantic any relationship acceptance affection attention appreciation and allowing the other person in your relationship to be him herself. Drawing on the buddhist concept of mindfulness how to be an adult in relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life 1. Drawing on the buddhist concept of mindfulness how to be an adult in relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life 1 attention to the present moment observing listening and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships 2. Drawing on the buddhist concept of mindfulness how to be an adult in relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life 1 attention to the present moment observing listening and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships 2 acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are. How to be an adult in relationships the five keys to mindful relationships by david richo most people think of love as a feeling says david richo but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present in this book richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate but on becoming a more loving and realistic person drawing